Measurements have always puzzled me. We only know how long something is based on the measure of something else.
Maybe that is why it is inevitable that we measure our own lives and accomplishments against the lives and accomplishments others. We see the perfection portrayed by others in real life and online and we measure it against our weaknesses. That perfection becomes our standard. Inevitably, we fall short. What a sure-fire way to set ourselves up for failure and make ourselves miserable. We feed ourselves a steady diet of empty shoulds and oughts and then wonder why we are starving for self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem.
The people around us are not standards that we should measure our lives against. We don’t really know their lives, their challenges, their failures, their struggles, or their weaknesses. It doesn’t work and it is not what they are there for. We are here to help each other, and comparison steals our focus away from loving and serving others and focuses our attention wholly on ourselves.
Yes, we should strive for admirable qualities that we see in others. But that striving should not be done to help us to measure up to them, but to grow ourselves. The only person I should be measuring myself against is me – the best version of myself – because I cannot be anyone else.
Light the Darkness,